Arguing is a natural psychological response when someone accuses you of something. It’s programmed as the right thing to do. Defend yourself. This, however, is the way to dig your hole deeper, faster, and more perfectly than your enemy imagined, all while they are watching you bury yourself.
Arguing shifts the burden of proof to YOUR shoulders. When you argue, you are making one or more claims… “I didn’t” or “It wasn’t me” or whatever you are arguing. STOP IT.
When the impulse to argue arises, let it be a trigger to think “What question can I counter with that will keep the burden of proof on the shoulders of my accuser?”
That is the place of power, and it is Rule number 4.